dea_zinn (dea_zinn) wrote,

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Sorry people.....

I need to rant, and this is the best place for me to do it.....especially since the jerks I have to call family aren't on here.....

Here's the post from MySpace that pissed me off: 

SRY Kelli, u forgot to mention how Sad & PATHETIC they are!
Body: **to STEAL from your own family? Ya I guess you feel like you're the only "bill" that needs to be paid, who do you think you are, & PLEASE share with us ALL WHY you feel like you are so special & ENTITLED to receive payment BEFORE the FUNERAL home?! You're both SICK & PATHETIC, I really hope it was worth it, because when it's over & done with you will only have each other, scarey thought HUH?!* ORIGINAL POST-> SOME PEOPLE MAKE ME SICK! Sorry if you thought this was something to repost, this is just a vent. I am extremely pissed off at this point. As all of you know I lost my Dad in Feb, well he didn't leave us with much, other than some bills and a funeral to pay for. As far as the bills go I and most of my family have accepted them as a loss and dropped it. The funeral was to be paid for by us selling dads items such as his cars and some personal things, well as things have been being sold such as one of his cars, no money has showed up at the funeral home and I guess not all of it is going too from what I have been told. Well there are 5 of us kids and we had all sat down and agreed that whatever sold went to pay for the funeral first, not to pay some bills that shouldn't even be an issue yet. I am sick and tired of liars and so far thats all I see with some of this family. I don't really care what they do but they sure have some nerve, but I NEVER put it past them because I haven't trusted a word from there mouths in years and neither does the rest of the family, there scum in my eyes and hope they know Karma is a bitch. What goes around comes around and I can't wait to laugh in there faces when it happens. I want nothing to do with that part of this family. At this point unless your a complete idiot you know who you are so do me a favor and don't contact me at all EVER AGAIN!! Once again to all who read this I am just pissed that there are family members who are this way.....
Here's what I posted there......
This is why I don't get on this site very often. People say one thing in real life, and turn around and change everything around to suit themselves on paper.
Truth: two cars were to be sold to help pay for my dad's funeral bills. One of the two cars was given to a member of the family who has a used car lot, and lots of exposure. Car value via KBB and NADA is $1800-2500, the family agreed not to take less than $1500. Was told the car was posted on Craigs list - craigs list was checked daily and it was never posted there. Was asked repeatedly for the title because if a sale came in it was to be done quickly - but was also told repeatedly there was no interest, except for two $500 offers. Car was moved off lot after family member got angry and told us to move it, he was done trying to help. Or was he done trying to scam us, by selling the car for more, and only telling us $500??
Second car was sold - money was used to pay off a garage bill for a car that was scrapped, even though there was no valid title to the car, and the car was going to be fixed and sold. The sibling that took the money from the security deposit did that, for money to leave town. Anoher $220 went to pay off cell phone bill, including $80+ overages in phone bill caused by that sibling. $200 is sitting here to go to the funeral home.
Funny that one of the 5 kids has taken the family for $475 security deposit, and for a $89 gas bill that has to be paid by us, but no one cares, and wants to do anything about it.
Funny that even though the VA has not yet paid anything, I'm being called a thief. Funny that even though I'm on long-release synthetic morphine patches, psych meds and anxiety meds, I have to go back to work so we can pay our bills on time, yet I'm taking from the rest of the family.

My mother owes me $1000 since 2004
My brother owes me $4000+ since 2003
Nothing has ever been said to my brother, and we've basically written it off as a lost cause, because they simply don't have it, and we know that. But when we take money that my husband spoke to my brother about, and they AGREED to have that bill paid, we're thieves. All part of how you look at things, I guess.

As for everyone being done with us, it's not like anyone ever gave us the time of day anyway. Phone calls went to vm, calls weren't returned, if we were invited to an event it's usually 'cause someone slipped up and told us about it, and we HAD to be invited. And people wonder why I've always had problems with my family.........
Seriously LJ, you have no idea how many times people have said 'did so and so call you?' and the answer is always .  'Are you going to so and so's for such and such?' Nope, wasn't invited. 

I'm just so hurt and pissed off.  I told my hubby Jeff when my brother came over to get a copy of the death certificate, and brought up the nursing home charges, that they were being accusatory.  He told me I was being overly sensitive, and he didn't think they were.  Guess who was right?  
And what really pisses me off is the fact that I made sure EVERYONE was including in the planning, and let people override me on some things that I felt strongly about, because I wanted to make sure everyone had a say and was happy with the outcome.  No one else volunteered to deal with any of this mess.  Here's the really sad part:  Dad's bills?  Here they are: 

Car repair - $150
Phone bill - $228 (because of my sister's overages)€
Owed to my sister K - $85
Tires to used car lot ran by brother in law - $105 (and he insists that it was written off as a bad debt)
Funeral bill - $2880

As far as I know, that's it.  His rent, cable and electric were paid in full at the time of his passing.  We've rec'd $500ish towards his funeral expenses from family and friends.  The VA is supposed to pay an additional $750 or so.  The car repair and the phone bill are now paid.  I'd gladly pay my sister, if she gave me the time of day.  Instead of bashing me on MySpace. 
This really, really sucks.  I miss my dad.  I know that my sister K has always been pissed because dad always turned to me, and we spent a lot of time together, and she felt slighted.  She's always got to be 'the princess' and be better than all of the rest of us.
I also know that supposedly there's an account that has $25K in it, in dad and my step mom's name.  I know that I've contacted their tax preparers, two banks, and most of their employers, and the money can't be found, where I can find it anyway.  My brother and his wife made a snide remark when they came over about K having a lead on the money.  And, I just know that all this damn animosity is because they all thought dad had all this money stashed away that we were going to be getting, and there's nothing there.  My brother is also going to get a rude awakening because if the money is primary in my step mom's name, I can guarentee that the two youngest siblings (whose mother it was) is going to cut out the three oldest of us.  That's just the way they are. 

AAAARRRGGGHHHH!  I so don't need this!  I am struggling SO HARD with the  new job, and basically spending my non-work days in bed to recover from the work days!!  This all sucks!!!!
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